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This was fantastic! My Mom was pretty amazing and it's been hard ever since her health started declining. Anyone who pretends the mother and child bond isn't sacred is a red flag person in my book. Hope you are doing well. 🙂

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I’m glad you liked it Jessie. I hope your mum gets better. Treat her to a home made British style afternoon tea. She’ll love it.

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Just wish she’d still be here with me to hug her 😔

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That's so shit. I'm dreading he day my mum goes.

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I know, 11 years and still feels like yesterday.

But what we did before she passed away, talk endlessly, ask all those questions we both had that had remained unanswered, and answer what we could.

The feeling that there was nothing left to ask or say gave me peace of mind. We had said it all. I looked after her for the last years of her life and I would do it again.

I do hope you will have your Mum for a very long time to come 🙏💙

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I'm soooo glad that you got all that. with your mum before she passed.

My mum is 63ish Lol. So hopefully I still have another 30 years with her.

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Aww that was beautiful!

Do you remember the finger wag that usually came with the look?

Mom’s slip-on slippers were her best weapons. And they went around corners!

The sad eyes and the “I am disappointed.” tore me into pieces every time. Much more effective than yelling.

I miss my mom.

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I remember my mum whacking me with the end of the hairbrush.

I remember my mum telling me “if it’s” are for dinner 😂😂.

I remember my mum tricking me into eating dog chocolates by telling me they were my brothers when I found them and knew I’d eat them.

I’m sorry your mum isn’t around. Was she a nice woman?

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She was the best! Though I might be a tad biased. She taught me many solids besides just how to tie my shoes.

No one is better than you just as you are not better than them.

You can do anything you put your mind to.

Think for yourself don’t just follow along.

She gave me the whys behind her decisions.

She always, ALWAYS made time for me.

I was her best friend, and she was mine.

Great tidbits to pass on to my own children.

Thank you for asking and thanks for the fond memories!

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Speaking as a mom, I sometimes think we get over-glorified and dads don't get enough credit. But you're right about all this, though. I am not a hugger but I would always accept a hug from my kids, no matter how big they got. And I would still love them even if they grew up to be murderers. Trying to keep that from happening though haha

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Thanks Hannah.

I bet you’re a great mum but I do agree about dads. They are vilified a lot. You only have to look at how dads are portrayed on TV to see that.

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Not enough people know their dads anymore, that's a big part of the problem.

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What a beautiful writeup. Thanks for such a heartwarming topic and sharing your lovely bond with your mum.

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I wish I could hug my mother one more time.

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That’s so shit. That’s why I always hug my mum whenever I get to see her.

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This was really sweet, Vulkan.

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Thank you very much. I need my mum right now to make me chicken soup. Man flu strikes 😂

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Hope you’re feeling better now.

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very well-written!

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Thankyou very much Jayshree.

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Feb 14Liked by Vulkan

we are from diametrically opposed spaces; sounds like myths to me

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What a lovely piece on our mums, Vulcan—thank you for fleshing out and sharing!

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Your mom will betray you.

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😂😂 she did once by telling me Dumbledore died. Don’t worry though. I got my own back.

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deletedJan 24Liked by Vulkan
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Thank you so much for such a lovely comment.

I’m sorry you lost your mum but Alzheimer’s is a very cruel disease. I can’t wait for the day we can reverse it.

It must have been heartbreaking to watch your mum decline. I’ve spoken to a few people before and they’ve admitted that as sad as they are about their parents passing, it’s almost a relief as dementia/Alzheimer’s is so cruel.

I hope you’re having an amazing week!!

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deletedJan 22Liked by Vulkan
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Tip for onions. Swimming goggles 😂.

But thank you for your comment. It’s really nice. I think step parents really do have a huge mountain to climb. I think it’s nice when you see some kids present adoption papers to step parents.

I’m glad your mum was a strong women and I’m sorry she’s gone. My mum is truly the head of my family so I’m not sure what will happen when she goes. My sister will take the mantle I guess.

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